Concerns that started from class

Existentialism seem very ideal, to live life as though everyday could be the last. To b free and yet to live life by the result of the choices you made where the person responsible where you ended up is you. I wanted to see of there were certain things in life that you have no control over aside from your birth and realizes that the simple answer to that was no. We are completely in control of our lives and that we just do not realize it. I thought about love and realized something about it in accordance to the philosophy.

Love nowadays is very biased. We give love a reason where there shouldn't be any. If a person falls in love, it is because they are in love and not because of looks, money, or any fancy item they have. To see the difference of having the choice of being in love of not being in love instead of I'll love him or her because of some unreasonable... reason.

There's a lot of stuff that drifted through my mind after thinking about love in a philosophical manner and I'll list them.

1.) Jealousy and hate, regardless of how they are negative in nature, can be a proof of love to a certain degree and there is a fine line between them and not caring at all. To not care is to say that there is an absence of love for that particular person or object.

2.)Arguing against one another is another form of love as one tries to express their concerns about that person though some admittedly will lead towards a more subjective view rather than a more objective point of view.

3.) The one who is subjected to a lot of abuse is the one who has the more compassion as that person is constantly enduring and patient. Compassion while it may blind some people towards the truth also causes mutual understanding as well.

4.) For a person to never waver in his decision yet to be complete unbiased and at the same time takes into account what the other person is worth and sees the person as a whole and not just what makes up all of the worldly gains that person achieved or gained throughout.

5.) Being sorry can also mean that they prefer the relation over their ego and that in some sense is a good thing but in reality sorry is not meant as to be only said but done. A proof of sincere apology is through ironically a trial period of absence of love as compare to actions as even that can be deceived. Time can heal all wounds but humility is something even time has yet to cure.

6.)Choosing who to love is two sided, both must consent to it otherwise there will only have a continuous longing. While patience has it's virtue, timing and choosing the timing are factors that people do not see. Same principle goes to those fixing relationships as a bad timing is a choice of both and vice versa.

7.)Lastly, Caring about another person is relative as much as not caring. The amount of care that is shown to you is that person's choice due to the amount of care you've shown due to your choices. If there is a relationship that suddenly blows up in your face because you did not expect it not to work out, it is the cause of both you choices whichever might overlap the other one.

For a person to live their life like this, I believe, has already seen one side of what it truly means to be in love. As for me, I've yet to start and after thinking about it, I can now strongly say that I have yet to both live and love.